Many times we, as flawed
human beings, make a personal comment, or react to a situation in anger,
only to wish we could take back our words or say what we really wanted to
say in a different manner?
Human beings are, by nature, confrontational
animals. We like to get in the last word! We are quick to strike back with
a negative comment when we are angry or when we are insulted! We donít
like to sit back and take criticism! Many times, our verbal attacks make
us feel good for the moment, but then we feel a sense of remorse and
regret afterwards when we realize that what we actually said may have
inflicted great pain on those around us. Consider the valuable lesson
about life a father taught his son in this little story and see if there
is a lesson for all of us.
once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of
nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a
nail into the back of the fence. The first day the boy had driven 37 nails
into the fence. Over the next few weeks, as he learned to control his
anger, the number of nails hammered daily gradually dwindled down. He
discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into
the day came when the boy didnít lose his temper at all. He told his
father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one
nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper. The days passed and
the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were
gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. He
said, "You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the
fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger,
they leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and
draw it out. It wonít matter how many times you say Iím sorry, the
wound is still there. A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one."
the lesson that the young boy learned. "It wonít matter how many
times you say Iím sorry, the wound is still there. A verbal wound is as
bad as a physical one."
is a lesson that must be learned by children and adults alike. The very
people we hurt the most are usually the
people closest to us. So next time you find yourself about to react with a
verbal attack on someone you love, or someone you work with, remember that
words, once allowed to escape can never be recalled. Make sure that what
you say will not leave a wound for life.