We see successful people all around us. They are the ones who seem to
have the fanciest cars, biggest houses, great clothes and wonderfully
satisfying jobs. Many of us look at those people and dream of achieving
that level of success, if only we could discover their secret.
I once heard the president of a world famous computer company tell
someone that the secret of his success could be summed up in two words,
When asked how he made right decisions, he responded, “Experience.”
Pressed further by the questioner, the president was asked how he got the
experience to make the right decisions.
To that the president quickly answered, “Wrong decisions.”
Isn’t that the truth?
The older I get the more I realize how little I knew when I was young. I
look back on all of the “wrong decisions” I have made in my life and
shake my head knowing that I certainly wouldn’t make the same mistakes
again. It is then that I realize I would not have gained the experience I
now have which allows me to make the right decisions were it not for the
mistakes I have made in the past.
So, does that mean that the older we get, the more chance we have of
making all the “right decisions”? The answer to that depends on
whether or not you are allowing yourself to take on new challenges and go
along different paths as you enter each wonderful stage of your life.
There are times when we long for a safe and secure existence, remaining
in that comfort zone with which we are familiar. It may seem as if we are
in a rut, but it is safe and we know what to expect. It is easy to be
successful in this comfort zone because we don’t take any new risks.
Decisions are easy because everything remains the same.
But real living is all about taking risks. It is about experiencing new
things and meeting new people. It is about expanding your circle of
friends and becoming involved. When we are fully live, we grow as persons.
When we stop growing, it is because we have stopped living. It is often
the fear of failure which prevents many of us from experiencing life to
the fullest, yet without failure we cannot be successful. It is quite a
To help myself get over the fear of failure, I rely on a piece of writing
I came across a long time ago that explained failure in a very positive
manner. Let me share it with you.
Failure does not mean I’m a failure; It just means I have not yet
Failure does not mean I have accomplished nothing; It just means I have
Failure does not mean I have disgraced myself; It just means that I have
dared to try.
Failure does not mean I don’t have it; It just means I have to do
something in a different way.
Failure does not mean I am inferior; It just means I am not perfect.
Failure does not mean I have wasted my life; It just means that I have an
excuse to start over.
Failure does not mean that I should give up; It just means that I should
Failure does not mean that I will never make it; It just means that I
need more practice.
Life is a series of ups and downs. That is what makes life so precious.
We ride the emotional highs when we are successful and we experience the
lows when we fail. But we should take heart in knowing that the secret of
success may actually lie in our failures. Without failures from wrong
decisions, we would lack the experience to make the right decisions later
on in life. If there are some areas of your life right now in which you
feel you are failing in some way, or in which you are not satisfied, look
upon what has happened as a necessary step in achieving success. Then you
will use your time to look for opportunities to use your new wisdom
instead of dwelling on the failures and problems of the past.
I once heard a saying that went like this, “Everything is all right in
the end! If it isn’t all right, then it isn’t the end!” So if there
is something in your life that “isn’t all right yet”, just remember
that “it isn’t the end until it is all right” and that since
“everything is all right in the end” you really do have something to
look forward to.